Members of a popular online forum have rushed to the defense of a woman who refuses to be in the room when her older sister gives birth.
in viral form reddit Post posted on r/AmITheA**hole, Redditor u/soontobeaunt (otherwise referred to as the original poster or OP) said she’s thrilled to be an aunt but made it clear she’s not interested in being in the delivery room when that happens.
entitled “[Am I the a**hole] For refusing to be present at my sister’s birth? ” Mail It has received more than 6,000 upvotes and 1,300 comments in the past day.
Beginning with explaining that her 27-year-old sister will give birth in a few weeks, the original 21-year-old poster said her family is excited about the process, but noted that they are more apprehensive.
“The thing is that [my sister] You want to be surrounded by family while you work,” the OP wrote. my family I mean; Her husband and a few members of her family on both sides.”
The original poster said that although her sister relied on having all her wanted relatives by her side, she made it clear that she wouldn’t be there.
“She said quite casually that we’d get through it,” OB wrote. “I told her I wouldn’t be there because I wasn’t sure if I would be able to keep my cool and see her agitated and…watch the miracle of bloody birth.
“I tried reasoning with her and said I would support her in every other way…but I don’t want to be there when you all scream and the baby comes out,” the OP continued. “She got so angry, she lectured me about how I was screwing up her perfect job and then [our] My mom also got my back because I was feeling allergic for no reason.
newly, NEWSWEEK Has reported on a number of Reddit threads in detail Disagreements in the delivery room.
However, the majority of these controversies have been described in detail by the soon-to-be mothers Unwanted guests From the room – not in.
Over the past two and a half years, COVID restrictions have limited the number of guests Allowed in delivery rooms across the United States.
But with many of these restrictions undoing, the size of the expecting mother’s support system is often subject to individual hospital policies, which often only allow two or three loved ones to remain present for the duration of the birth, according to MedStar Health.
Concluding her viral post on Reddit, the original poster reiterated that he was willing to help her sister in any way possible after the baby was born, but said her refusal stressed the expectant mother, adding to her guilt.
However, during the post’s comments section, Redditors were adamant that the original poster was justified to come out and criticized her sister for asking them to be in the delivery room, despite her concerns.
“[Not the a**hole]Redditor u/Locksmith91 wrote in the top comment of the post, which has received over 12,000 upvotes. Your sister doesn’t seem to understand the difference between calling and summoning. “
Redditor u/AUserHasNoName42069 echoed that sentiment.
“[Not the a**hole], “they wrote.” I think a lot of people don’t realize that just because you give birth “your way” doesn’t mean you have to dictate who should be there.
And they added, “If you’re not comfortable being there, that’s it.”
In a separate comment, which received nearly 4,000 votes, Redditor u/mm172 expressed concern about any issues with a “perfect” business plan.
“If her ‘perfect labor plan’ is not accommodating one person who is not the midwife or even absent father, I shudder when I think about how to deal with it if there are complications or the baby is coming in too quickly. Get everyone together.”
NEWSWEEK I reached out to u/soontobeaunt for comment.